I don’t trust you…! We’re always fighting, it’s like being at war…! I will sabotage this love so he/she will leave…! Children are born with the instinct to seek care from adults; their survival depends on it. When psychologist and researcher Dr. Mary Ainsworth, an attachment expert conducted the “Strange Situation” test, she noted how [...]
You’re going to get hurt in this relationship... Don’t get too involved... You’ve got to protect yourself...! The relationship between the primary caregiver and the baby can create a secure, anxious, disorganised or AVOIDANT attachment style that will form a blueprint for relationships throughout the baby’s life. Sometimes parents are largely mis-attuned, distant, or intrusive, [...]
Yes-No..! Come close, don't come close..! Sounds familiar? There is a reason for this so called AMBIVALENT Attachment style. Anxious-ambivalent attachment is when the infant feels separation anxiety when separated from the caregiver and does not feel reassured when the caregiver returns to the infant. Many parents and/or caregivers are inconsistently attuned to their [...]
Traumatic experiences can haunt us for what seems an eternity. They linger in the backs of our minds or play a prominent part of our everyday activities. It can cast a shadow over all the things we do, and make the world we live in very different to the world many others experience. Having experienced [...]
