Being in a relationship is one of the greatest joys we can experience, but it can also be a lot of work when you are trying to co-exist with someone who is usually very opposite to you.
Over the course of a relationship, married and defacto couples can face some big issues that can have significant impact on their relationships. Finances, family, work pressures, limited time together or a lack of intimacy can occur and disrupt the balance of the relationship.
Thankfully though, even when your relationship is at its most strained, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can transform your relationship and help you remember why you were together in the first place.
1. It helps you discover what’s really important
Each and every one of us longs for contact and care; it’s a part of the way we humans are made up. EFT helps couples to understand what love is, it gives you a map to navigating love, and enables you to move forward as a couple for a more happy and rewarding union. EFT gets straight to our emotions, there is no coaching or persuading your partner to think or behave differently.
2. It allows you to read relationship signals
We all send emotional signals in or relationships. And quite a few jokes have been made about these signals and how males and females interpret them. EFT enables us to talk about emotions and helps us to understand the signals we send. So for example, while one partner may send signals that push the other away, EFT can help understand this and develop new emotional signals for greater harmony in the relationship.
3. It enables better connection
Interestingly, your adult relationships are significantly influenced by the attachment you felt as a child with your parents. This is called attachment theory which was founded by psychiatrist John Bowlby and psychologist Mary Ains-worth. So understanding how secure, anxious or prone to avoidance you were as a child brings a greater understanding to the way you connect as an adult.
4. It busts the love myths
There are so many myths about love that we learn throughout life. Plus we see loving relationships modelled all around us – from in our own homes and friendship groups, through to movies on TV and mega-stars in the news.
Is anyone out there doing it right? Well the work of psychologist Dr Sue Johnson, who is one of the originators of EFT, tells us that love is right for people and that we can shape loving relationships so that we have healthier and happier lives.
If you’re ready to transform your relationship, get better connected with your partner, and find out what’s really important to both of you, contact us now.